If a friend keeps doing something that bugs you, tell them. Friendships can’t repair a problem nobody ever mentioned.

Irritation kept quiet does not stay the same size. It collects, and by the time it comes out it has stopped being about the thing and started being about the pattern, which is far harder to hear. Your friend has no way to fix something they were never told about. Silence protects the comfortable hour you are in and charges the friendship later.

Say it early, small, and once: name the specific thing, not the character trait you think sits behind it. Pick a calm moment rather than the moment it happens. Most of the time the other person is relieved, because they could feel something was off.