When everything falls apart, God gets a chance to rebuild it on a better foundation.

When a structure collapses, the parts that were quietly wrong become visible for the first time, and rebuilding can be done differently because the old shape is no longer in the way. None of that makes the collapse good or deserved, and nothing here suggests you brought it on yourself. It only says the wreckage is not the end of the account.

Let the hard part be hard first, without rushing to find the lesson. Later, when there is a little room, ask what you would set up differently. Build the next version slowly, on something that will hold.