Gardeners cut healthy branches on purpose so the rest of the tree can get stronger. Not every loss is a loss.

Removal is sometimes the growth. A plant given everything in every direction puts out a lot of thin, weak extensions and very little worth having, and the pruning that looks like damage is what concentrates the energy. Some things you lose were healthy and still needed to go.

Look at what you are currently spreading yourself across. If two of those things are fine rather than important, consider ending one on purpose rather than waiting for it to fail. Choosing the cut is very different from having it made for you.