You can’t lead a kitchen if you’ve never burned your hand on a pan. Learn the craft first.

Direction given by someone who has never done the work lands as noise, because it misses the small realities that only appear when your hands are in it. Knowing how long a thing actually takes, where it goes wrong, what it costs the person doing it: that knowledge is what makes an instruction feel possible rather than insulting.

Spend a shift, a practice, or an afternoon doing the job you normally direct. Do it badly and let people see you do it badly. What you learn in those hours will change how you ask for things for years.