A family pattern stops the moment one person decides it stops with them. That can be you.

Inherited behavior continues because it is the only version anyone in the line has seen. It is not a curse and it is not anyone’s fault for having absorbed it; it is repetition, and repetition can be interrupted by a single person who notices it and does something different under pressure. That interruption is genuinely difficult and it is also possible.

Pick one specific thing rather than the whole inheritance. How anger gets expressed, whether apologies happen, what gets said about money. Change that one thing when the moment comes, and know that getting it wrong sometimes does not undo the work.