When you explain your decision for a whole paragraph, it starts to sound like an apology. Two sentences is plenty.

REFLECTION

WHAT THIS MEANS

Length signals doubt. A decision delivered in one or two sentences sounds settled, while the same decision wrapped in reasons invites the other person to argue with the reasons, since you have handed them a list of things to dispute. The explaining usually comes from wanting to be liked rather than from being unclear.

Say the decision, give at most one reason, and stop. If someone pushes, repeat the same sentence rather than producing a new argument. No is a complete answer, and saying it briefly is kinder than a paragraph that sounds like a request for permission.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which decision of yours did you over-explain to keep the peace?

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