The person who prepares for every betrayal may unknowingly behave as though betrayal has already occurred.

Constant readiness for betrayal shows. The withholding, the testing, the way trust is never quite extended, all of it communicates to people that they are already suspected. Many respond by pulling back, which then confirms the expectation. The preparation does not merely predict the outcome; it participates in producing it.

Notice how you behave toward someone you are braced against. If you would not want to be treated that way by someone who had no evidence against you, that is worth sitting with. Extending a little trust before it has been fully earned is a risk, and it is also how anything gets established.