Lifeguards don’t jump in after a panicking swimmer empty-handed. Even rescuers bring something to hold onto.
RESILIENCE
WHAT THIS MEANS
A person in a panic will grab whatever is nearest, which is why a rescuer carries a float: it gives them something to hold that is not you. Helping somebody in difficulty works the same way. If you go in with nothing between you and their distress, you both end up under. Something to offer, a plan, a time limit, a third person, is what keeps the help workable.
Next time a friend is struggling, bring something concrete rather than only yourself: a walk, a meal, a number for someone qualified. Decide beforehand how much you can give, and say so plainly.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
What will you bring when you go help someone who is panicking?
MORE IN ADVERSITY, PRESSURE & RESILIENCE
- The worst feedback you’ll ever get is usually the most useful once your face stops burning.
- Some days you’re the rescuer, some days you need rescuing. Good teams switch roles without keeping score.
- Getting tossed off a horse and walking it back to the barn calm is a skill. Composure after a fall can be practiced.
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