Stop rebuilding the same house and calling the new paint transformation.

It is possible to make constant adjustments to the same fundamental arrangement and mistake the activity for transformation. New job, same dynamic. New relationship, same pattern. New system, same underlying avoidance. The surface keeps changing and the structure does not, which is why the results stay familiar.

When you next feel like you are starting over, ask what is actually different about the structure rather than the surface. If the answer is only the setting, look for the pattern you are carrying. That is the thing worth working on, and it usually travels well.