If you’d forgive a friend for it, at least consider giving yourself the same deal.

You already know how to be fair about this, because you do it for other people constantly. A friend tells you what they did and you find the context, the tiredness, the reason it made sense. Turned inward, that same generosity suddenly looks like an excuse. The double standard is so normal that it stops feeling like one.

Take what you are still annoyed at yourself about and describe it as if a friend had done it. Out loud, in the words you would actually use with them. Then notice the gap between the two verdicts and pick the fairer one.