Looking for a perfect church means you’ll never stay long enough to be part of one.

Searching for a flawless version of anything communal is a way of never joining it. Every group has an annoying person, a thing it does badly, and a decision you disagree with. Leaving at the first of those means you are always new somewhere, always evaluating, never actually inside. Belonging requires staying past the point where you can see the faults.

Stay a year with the group you are half committed to. Volunteer for something, which is the fastest way to stop being a spectator. Then let the irritating parts be the price rather than a signal.