Telling a coach “be honest with me, I can take it” changes what you get back. Then you have to actually take it.

Most people get softened feedback because the person giving it is managing your reaction, and softened feedback is nearly useless. Asking for the direct version changes what you are given, often immediately. The catch is that you have then agreed to hear it, and reacting badly once will close the door for good.

Ask one person whose judgement you trust for the unvarnished assessment of one specific thing. Say nothing while they answer except to ask for an example. Thank them, go away, and only decide what you think about it the next day.