Love inside a family can exist alongside mistakes that deserve acknowledgment.

Loving someone and having been hurt by them are not competing claims. Families often push for one or the other, either forgive completely or condemn completely, and both demands ask you to falsify something. The more honest position is that real affection existed and real harm happened, and the harm deserves to be named rather than absorbed into the affection.

You can acknowledge a wrong privately, in your own understanding, without staging a confrontation. Say to yourself plainly what happened and that it was not right. Naming it accurately is what stops it from leaking into everything else.