When your jeans get too short overnight, you don’t blame the jeans. Outgrowing stuff is just proof you grew.

Nobody argues with a hem. When clothes stop fitting, the reason is obvious and uninteresting, and no one feels bad about it. The same thing happens with friendships, hobbies and plans, except there we hunt for someone at fault instead of accepting that growth makes some things the wrong size.

If something in your life has stopped fitting, try the hem explanation before the blame one. Ask whether anything actually went wrong or whether you simply got bigger than it. Then let it go with the shrug you would give a pair of trousers.