Join one thing in a new place, even if it’s a bowling league full of retirees. They’ll teach you more than you expect.

A new place stays strange while you only pass through it. Joining anything that repeats gives you a reason to be somewhere weekly and a set of people who expect you, which is how a city turns into a life. The group does not have to be your age or your scene for that to work.

Sign up for one repeating thing in the first month rather than waiting until you have friends. Go four times before deciding whether you like it. Ask the oldest person there one real question about their life.