If you don’t define success for yourself, social media will happily do it for you.

Standards do not come from nowhere. If you never work out what a good life looks like to you, the gap gets filled by whatever you scroll past most often, which is other people’s best angles sorted by what keeps you watching. Borrowed definitions are exhausting, because you can never meet them and they keep moving.

Write down three things that would make this year good for you, specific enough to check. Money or followers can be on the list, but say how much and why. When a feed leaves you feeling behind, go back and read what you wrote.