Heads and tails are stamped on the same coin. Your best and worst traits usually come from the same place.

The stubbornness that makes you impossible to argue with is the same stubbornness that keeps you shooting free throws after everyone else has gone home. Traits do not arrive sorted into good and bad. They show up as one tendency that points different ways depending on the day and how tired you are. People who try to delete a flaw often lose the strength attached to it.

Think of something you have been told off for lately, talking too much or caring too much about winning. Find one place where that same quality works for you. Watch it twice this week and notice which way it is pointing.