You’ll pick your friend’s laugh out of a noisy cafeteria instantly. Your ears already know who matters.

Attention sorts people before you get around to deciding anything. Underneath the noise, your ears have already made a list of whose voice counts, and that list was built out of hours spent together rather than out of any choice you remember making. It is worth reading, because it is more honest than the list you would write down.

So notice who you pick out of a crowded room without trying. Those are the people your week should have time in it for, and most of them get the leftovers instead. Text one of them something that is not about plans.