You think you’re seeing the whole picture. You’re seeing your corner of it in great detail.

Detail is what fools you. Your corner of any situation comes with texture and reasons, and that richness gets read as completeness, when in fact it is the opposite: the more vivid your own view, the less you notice its edges. Everyone else is standing in a corner just as detailed as yours.

Before you decide what happened in an argument, go and get one other corner. Ask somebody who was there what they noticed, and listen for the parts that are new rather than the parts that confirm you. You are not trying to be talked out of your view, only to learn how big it is.