Wait until you’re calm to send the hard text. The draft written angry is a gift to the other side.

Anger writes fast and badly. It reaches for the sharpest sentence available, and that sentence becomes the one the other person quotes back at you forever. Whatever was fair in your complaint gets buried under the line you wish you could take back, and they never have to answer the real question.

Write the message, then leave it in your notes app overnight. Read it in the morning and cut every sentence that is only there to wound. What remains is usually shorter, harder to argue with, and still says the thing you actually meant to say.