Be honest about your wins too. Shrinking them isn’t humility, it’s inaccurate.

There is a reflex that waves away anything good you did, and it gets praised as modesty when it is really just a wrong number in the other direction. Saying it was nothing, when it was in fact something, tells people something false and quietly trains you not to count your own work. Honesty is supposed to run both ways.

Next time somebody says well done, say thanks and name the part you worked hardest on. No deflection, no joke to break the moment. It feels exposing for about four seconds and then feels ordinary.