The young ref is still learning to make calls. So are you. Give them the patience you’d want.

The person with the whistle is often barely older than the players, working for very little and learning the job in front of a shouting crowd. Their mistakes are the same kind as yours: too slow, out of position, guessing under pressure. Imagining how you would want to be treated in your first week at anything usually settles the question. The shouting does not improve the next call either.

Choose one game this week where you say nothing to the official except thanks. Watch what it does to your own head as well as theirs. If something genuinely needs raising, let the captain or the coach raise it between plays.