The person you were at twenty does not need to approve every choice at forty.

Old versions of yourself keep a surprising amount of authority: the plans you made, the tastes you had, the things you swore you would never do. Some of that is worth keeping, and some of it was written by someone with far less information than you have now. Consistency with a younger self is not the same as integrity.

When a choice feels like a betrayal of who you were, ask what that earlier version actually knew. Keep the values and let the specifics go. You are allowed to have learned something in twenty years.