A missed opportunity may need mourning before it becomes useful information.

Rushing to the lesson can be a way of stepping over the loss. Something you wanted did not happen, and analysis arrives quickly because analysis feels like doing something while disappointment feels like sitting still. A conclusion built on top of an unfelt loss tends not to hold when it is tested.

Give it a stretch of time without a verdict attached. Be sorry about it, plainly, without deciding yet what it proves about you or about what comes next. The lesson will keep.