A disappointment shared carefully can become less lonely without becoming less real.

Telling someone about a loss changes its weight without changing any of its facts. What makes it help is care on both sides: not being fixed, not being outdone by a bigger story, not having the thing compressed into a lesson before you have finished feeling it. It stays true and stops being carried alone.

If you are holding something heavy, pick the person who is good at not rushing. If someone brings you theirs, ask one question before you offer anything at all.