A family favor should not turn every future holiday into a reminder of what is owed.

Help given inside a family can be a gift or a lien, and the difference shows up years later. When the favor is mentioned at every gathering, the person who received it never stops receiving it, and the generosity slowly turns into a standing account they cannot settle. Debt of that kind changes how someone can be in the room.

If you helped someone, decide that it is closed and stop referring to it, including in jokes. If you were helped and it keeps returning, say once and calmly that you would like to settle it or set it down.