The person who confided in you did not give the whole group permission to know.

GRATITUDE

WHAT THIS MEANS

Confidences are granted individually and travel collectively. Something told to you in a kitchen gets repeated to one trusted person, who repeats it to another, and each step feels small while the total is a private situation circulating among people the teller never chose. They usually find out through a stranger’s sympathy, which is a particular kind of exposure.

Treat the boundary as one person wide unless you were told otherwise. If passing it on seems necessary, ask them first, and accept a no without needing a reason for it.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Whose secret have you shared with one person too many?

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