The story that once helped you survive can become inaccurate after survival is no longer the problem.

Accounts formed under pressure are shaped by what you needed at the time: that you could rely on no one, that you had to be perfect, that people leave. They were accurate enough to get you through, and they are descriptions of an environment rather than of the world. Carried forward, they quietly govern situations that would have supported a different story.

Take one belief you formed in a hard period and ask whether it has been tested lately under different conditions. Not argued with, tested. Some will hold. The ones that were true only of that place deserve to be retired, and they will not retire themselves.