Being told you’re “too much” or “too quiet” says more about the room than about you.

Those two complaints cancel each other out, which tells you neither is really a measurement of you. Every room has a volume it finds comfortable, and anyone above or below it gets a label. Rooms change, and the same thing that made you odd in one is often what makes you necessary in another.

Think about where you have felt like the right amount of yourself, and notice who was in the room when you did. Spend a little more of this week in that kind of company. You can learn to read a space without rebuilding yourself to fit it.